Episode #30: Sexual Fluidity, and How Anger Helped Access My Sexuality, with Maddie Upson, part 2 of 2
Labels can be constricting, and while they’re not that they are bad, a lot of people do not fall into the gay, straight, or bisexual labels, but find themselves identifying more with the term “queer” or sexually fluid. It’s okay to not have a label. All that matters is practicing safe and consensual sex with whomever it may be.
Episode #29: Sexual Fluidity, and How Anger Helped Access My Sexuality, with Maddie Upson, part 1 of 2
Anger's such a powerful emotion because it allows you to carve out space and hold your boundaries in a way that shame and fear can kind of incapacitate you. While there are pros and cons, anger is one of the few emotions that really, I think, shores you up and you can push it back on things.
Episode #27: The Sex Ed We Wish We Had: Shared Values, with Jimmy Bridges, part 2 of 2
What I'm mostly encouraging folks to do is both get to a place where they're able to really like step into the shoes of the other person. And then that works both ways because it helps with pacing. I think the biggest issue that leads to harm is we're trying to move too fast.
Episode #26: The Sex Ed We Wish We Had: Shared Values, with Jimmy Bridges, part 1 of 2
“I got pretty good at repressing a ton of like sexual urge, sexual desire, sexual exploration, sexual identity exploration, to where I thought I was getting a good sense of who I was and building this like really strong identity, but the reality was I was losing myself.”
Episode #25: The Sex Ed We Wish We Had: Honesty, with Kara Haug
How can we have honest dialogue about sexuality when we’ve been so dishonest with our kids and adolescents about sexual health?
To help us answer this, we invite Kara Haug, co-founder of Reframing Our Stories, a business that provides sexual health education, resources and tools for families and communities to normalize conversations around sex and relationship in Sacramento.
Episode #24: The Sex Ed We Wish We Had: Discussing Sexually Transmitted Infections with Jenelle Pierce, Part 2 of 2
A person is beginning to date and is exploring multiple potential dating, sexual, and or romantic relationships. What are some ways to help set initial conversations around STI or pregnancy prevention?”
Episode #23: The Sex Ed We Wish We Had: Discussing Sexually Transmitted Infections with Jenelle Pierce, Part 1 of 2
It’s not just like I have this STI I status I need to disclose. It's that I wanna talk about these things around sexual health and safer sex because I had an experience that opened my mind. That looks like, “I'm curious about what you need. I'm curious about what you'd like to do around safer sex or sexual health. I'm curious when you were last tested, cause here's when I was tested here was, here were the results of my tests.”
Episode #22: The Sex Ed We Wish We Had: Non-Exploitation, with Amber Wood
We commonly talk about exploitation from the perspective of individuals leveraging their individual power and control to receive sexual gratification. On this, and in future episodes, we acknowledge that individuals who exploit are commonly enacting cultural and societal directives to exploit. As such, we are holding both systems and individuals accountable.
Episode #21: The Sex Ed We Wish We Had: Consent, Part 2 of 2, with Jeremiah and Julia
We want consent to be an easy, straightforward thing. And when there are clear intentions to use sexuality as a way to physically and emotionally hurt and violate other people, the line between consent and non-consent becomes pretty straightforward.
However, if we think about consent not as attorneys do, as a yes/no binary, consent was or wasn’t given, but more as a relational process, a dialogue, a conversation, here’s where things become a bit more complicated.
Episode #19: Reading from the Book that the Gospel Coalition Apologized For Last Week, Part 3
In all seriousness, this messaging by Butler is not new, just repackaged for 2023. You could have realistically picked up a book like this in 2013, 2003, and 1993 and the same message would be clear: Don’t. Have. Sex. (Unless you are married, then it’s okay!) He stays true to Evangelical beliefs by making it clear that Queer people do not exist and reinforcing the binary that you can only be single or married. We hope you enjoy this episode where we read yet another book repacking the same purity culture values again!
Episode #18 Reading from the Book that the Gospel Coalition Apologized For Last Week, Part 2
Naming these rigid expectations and understanding how Evangelical theologians come to these conclusions help us deconstruct unhelpful expectations for humanity and recreate new possibilities for people to explore themselves and celebrate life through relationships.
Episode #17: Reading from the Book that the Gospel Coalition Apologized For Last Week, Part 1
This week there has been controversy surrounding Joshua Butler's new book, Beautiful Union: How God's Vision for Sex Points us to the Good, Unlocks the Truth, and Sort of Explains Everything.
And yes, that is the real title.
The Gospel Coalition, a media source for conservative evangelicals, published an excerpt from Joshua Butler's new book, which was so horrendous, even THEY had to take it down.
Episode #14: Deadly Sexual Sin (According to the Church) #7: Don’t Ask Questions, with Jeremiah and Julia
Not knowing is an extremely difficult skill to master, especially for those of us who grew up in contexts where knowing and believing will conflated. We’re excited to ask more questions of ourselves throughout our relationship, and on this podcast.
Episode 13: Deadly Sexual Sin #6 (According to the Church): Don’t Say No, with Dr. Laura Anderson, part 2
Trauma responses can happen as a result of a one-time incident (acute) or the cumulation of incidents (complex). Laura reflects, “Whereas when we're talking about more complex trauma that has happened over the span of years and decades, such as trauma in high control religion, I have to learn how to integrate that into my life to realize, I literally cannot process every single moment of every single time something happened. because we would be doing that for the rest of our life and then some.”
Episode 12: Deadly Sexual Sin #6 (According to the Church): Don’t Say No, with Laura Anderson, part 1
“I'm thinking about how the theme around the episode is, Don't Say No. What you learned, what I learned, Jeremiah, what you've described that you've learned is that freedom comes from following the rules, which means saying no to all these different things.
Obviously that was not freeing for you, for me, for many people. And then you said yes, and the journey was much longer after that. But what a beautiful moment in which you could connect with yourself and connect with a yes.
Episode 11: Deadly Sexual Sin #5 (According to the Church): Don't Watch Porn, with Cayte Castrillon, part 2
We're not at fault for our social conditioning, but we are responsible for it. We have to reflect on how we have developed as sexual beings, how that impacts us and our relationships, and then ask ourselves, am I content with who I am as a sexual person? Or do I want to be more intentional about who I am, who I want to be, and for the sake of our conversation, what I want to consume?
Episode 5: Deadly Sexual Sin #4 (According to the Church): Don’t Have an Affair, part 1
Marriage symbolizes the union between God/Jesus and the church, as the church describes.
And, according to the Evangelical Church, any relationship with a person of the opposite gender that is not your spouse is a potential threat to the sanctity of marriage
Episode 4: Deadly Sexual Sin #3 (According to the Church): Don’t Have Wants, with Jake and Sarah Lollar
We invite our friends Jake and Sarah to talk with us about how growing up in the Evangelical Church (the same collegiate church as Jeremiah) impacted their relationship with wants as individuals and as a partnership. We describe a three step process that can help people give themselves permission to name their wants and desires,
Episode 1: Seven Deadly Sexual Sins (According to the Church): A Preview
In connection to this episode, the reason that we don't talk about sex here on Sunday school, the reason that talking about sex is dangerous is because it threatens the dogma, the doctrine, and the belief structure that holds together religious communities. By talking about sex, you threaten the very foundation of an institution.