We talk with Luke and Lauren from the Filled to Flourish podcast about their experience navigating dating in a Purity Culture context. They describe how their efforts of turning towards God, through perfectionism, "atonement", and practicing obligatory sexual abstinence resulting in them turning away from themselves, and each other.

“I'm thinking about how the theme around the episode is, Don't Say No. What you learned, what I learned, Jeremiah, what you've described that you've learned is that freedom comes from following the rules, which means saying no to all these different things.

Obviously that was not freeing for you, for me, for many people. And then you said yes, and the journey was much longer after that. But what a beautiful moment in which you could connect with yourself and connect with a yes.

In connection to this episode, the reason that we don't talk about sex here on Sunday school, the reason that talking about sex is dangerous is because it threatens the dogma, the doctrine, and the belief structure that holds together religious communities. By talking about sex, you threaten the very foundation of an institution.